I do know that for that time this movie and the book version were a popular way to inform the kiddies of the birds and the bees (how I actually learned was before the showing of this movie, a friends father left us at home and we found his porn collection - I've never been able to look at Snow White in the same way). So now that I'm a mother, what do I do? Particularly now that I have a teenager.
The Superhero's father was definitely not a sexual person, we were married for 7 weeks before the marriage was consumated. By the end of the marriage we were down to roughly twice a year, he'd barely be in and be done then he'd chuck me a towel and say "so you can wipe yourself". His parents seemed to believe in sex for procreation. During my pregnancy I had all kinds of thoughts about what I wanted to teach my child. I can remember thinking that I didn't want my child thinking that sex was dirty and only for the purposes of having a baby. When my boy was in the sixth grade the school had a little talk about how their bodies were starting to change. I took that opportunity to ask my son if there was any questions he had. I felt incredibly uncomfortable, in fact I cringe and feel sick whenever we see a couple kissing on tv so the whole talking about sex thing with my kid is a bit of a struggle but I'm determined. He didn't seem to have anything to ask but we chatted a bit about his friends and he mentioned that one of them likes to 'fap'. I had absolutely no clue what the hell fapping was and not wanting to ask my son to teach me a new thing I sent my chap a text asking if he knew. Turns out 'fapping' is how the cool kids describe masturbating these days. We just said wanking. This particular word has since been used to terrorise me, old mate finds it amusing.
I know that quite soon I need to plan a proper conversation with the Superhero. I need to be sure that he understands that there is nothing wrong with enjoying his own body (obviously in an appropriate environment I don't want him fapping on the lounge whilst he's watching Dr Who), that when he makes the decision to have sex for the first time it needs to be 100% consensual and protection is an absolute must. He needs to know that his partner must be comfortable and willing and there's nothing wrong with waiting if that's what she (he seems to be heterosexual) wants. I have no doubt that he knows the "ins and outs" of what the deed involves - he's 13.5, he simply needs to have an understanding of what will happen if he's not cautious or considerate. And, most importantly he needs to know that the experience makes you feel good, it's not something to be ashamed of.
So, I know what I want him to know it's having the guts to actually have the conversation with him. I need to work out how to keep my emotions in check and not do something embarrassing like bursting into tears.